When the mind splits: Understanding dissociative disorders

I rarely watch movies, but during the recent long holiday, I finally sat down to see one. It wasn’t the most popular title, but the story caught my attention because it portrayed a character living with what was supposed to be a dissociative disorder. But almost everything about that portrayal was wrong. I had seen this kind of misrepresentation in one or two other films before now, and I remember thinking to myself, “One day, I’ll write about this.” So when our last series ended, I knew it was time.

Dissociative disorders are not as widely talked about as depression or other mental health conditions yet they affect people in real ways. They can show up at any age but often begin in childhood, especially in children who’ve gone through trauma, abuse, or severe emotional neglect. Sometimes, the signs show up early, but no one really connects the dots. You may see a child who often “zones out” or seems like they’re in their own world, and people just call them quiet or imaginative. But as they grow older, the symptoms can deepen. And by the time they become teenagers or adults, they’re often struggling with memory gaps, identity confusion, or feelings of emotional disconnection without knowing exactly why. Many adults live with these symptoms for years before they even have a name for what they’ve been experiencing.

That’s why this article matters. We need to talk about this not in the confusing language of textbooks or the dramatic lens of movies but in plain terms people can understand. Because too many people are struggling with symptoms they’ve never been able to name. Or worse, they’ve been told, “It’s all in your head,” when the truth is: yes, it is in their head but not in the way people dismissively mean.

Dissociative disorders are mental health conditions that cause a disconnection between a person’s thoughts, identity, memory, and even sense of self. It’s the mind’s way of protecting itself from emotional pain. Imagine your brain pulling a curtain across certain memories or parts of your identity, just so you can keep functioning. That curtain might help in the short term but over time, it can become disorienting. There are three main types of dissociative disorders. Let’s break them down in a way we can all relate to.

First is Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), formerly known as Multiple Personality Disorder. This is perhaps the most misunderstood one partly because of how the media portrays it. People with DID have two or more distinct identities or personality states that take turns being in control. Each identity may have its own voice, memories, behavior, and way of seeing the world. Sometimes the person is aware when a switch has happened, but not always. And they often have serious memory gaps. They may not remember things they’ve done or conversations they’ve had when another identity was in charge. This isn’t about acting or pretending, it’s a very real condition rooted in deep trauma, often from early childhood.

Next is Dissociative Amnesia. This is when a person can’t recall important personal information often related to a traumatic or stressful experience. Unlike ordinary forgetfulness, this is more intense. It can last for minutes, days, or even years. Sometimes people forget just one specific event. Other times, they might lose memories of a whole period in their life. In rare cases, the person might leave home, forget who they are, and start a new life under a new name, a condition called fugue state. It sounds dramatic, but it’s not fiction. It’s a real, distressing condition that can deeply affect the person’s life.

Then there’s Depersonalization/Derealization Disorder. This one can be harder to describe, but if you’ve ever felt like you were watching your life from outside your body or that the world suddenly felt strange or unreal, that’s close. People who experience this describe feeling like they’re detached from their thoughts or physical self as though they’re observing life through a fog or a glass wall. You’re aware that it’s happening, which makes it even more frightening. You might know you’re brushing your hair, or talking to someone, but it feels like it’s not really you doing it. That awareness can be both confusing and painful. On the outside, you may seem calm or distracted, but inside, you feel like you’re not fully in your body or like the world around you has lost its color and shape. This can last a few minutes or go on for days, weeks, even longer.

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People experiencing these symptoms often feel helpless. They might try to “snap out of it” or explain it to loved ones, only to be told they’re being dramatic or imagining things. The truth is, it’s a deeply distressing condition, and it’s not something anyone chooses. It happens automatically as a way of coping.

But here’s where it gets tricky: the symptoms of dissociative disorders often look like other mental health problems. Some people might be mistakenly diagnosed with schizophrenia because of identity changes or memory gaps. Others may be told they have bipolar disorder or PTSD. While some of these conditions can overlap, dissociative disorders are unique in that they center around disconnection, from memory, identity, or reality. Unlike schizophrenia, which may involve hallucinations or delusions, people with dissociative disorders are often aware that something feels off. They’re not losing touch with reality in the same way, they’re trying to hold onto it.

One major problem is how the public sees these conditions. The myths surrounding dissociative disorders are damaging. People assume those who experience them are violent or dangerous. That’s simply not true. Most people with dissociative disorders are quiet, deeply sensitive individuals trying to make sense of a very complex inner world. .

Another myth is that dissociative symptoms are just an act of something people do to get attention. But dissociation is not a decision. It’s an automatic defense mechanism. You don’t choose to disconnect from yourself or your memories, it just happens, especially when your mind feels overwhelmed.

So what can we do? We can start by listening more and judging less. If someone tells you they feel like parts of their memory are missing or that they sometimes feel unreal, believe them. Ask questions. Offer support. Don’t assume you know what’s going on inside someone else’s mind. And if you are someone living with dissociative symptoms, know this: You are not crazy. You are not weak. You are not alone. What happened to you matters. And healing is possible.

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